Permanent Chastity Reality – Never take lightly !

Reality of Male Celibacy

Permanent Chastity you should never take lightly! So why do we say this?

The reality is you and your lover should see it as a lifestyle change that can be extreme and rewarding at the same time.

Couples want to test the waters, as chastity is a fantasy! However, how safe is enforced chastity for long-term use?

The answer permanent chastity is COMPLETELY SAFE as long as there are safety measures in place, and you follow proper hygiene.

On the other hand, your sub man needs time to adjust to the new reality while wearing the chastity cock cage.

These are essential factors to have an enjoyable permanent chastity experience! So how do you prepare your man for long-term chastity?

Get all the ins and outs right here!

Find the Perfect Permanent Chastity Device

Enforced Male Chastity Device

What is the best male chastity device?

Excellent question it is the one that fits you!

You can spend your money on the Fancy Steel Chastity Slim Fit Belt or the CB6000 male cock cage the fact remains it needs to fit snug and not too tight.

The device must feel comfortable without rubbing or pinching against any part of the penis or testicles.

Therefore, your penis cage needs to fit like a glove.

So make sure to note if you see any red marks, chafing, rubbing, and pain and more while wearing.

Furthermore, do not go and choose a cock ring one size smaller, thinking a tight fit is more effective for long-term chastity.

A fact is that it is hazardous to your penis and health. You do not want to feel chafed or have sensitive skin during your permanent chastity.

As a result, how do you know if the cock rings are a perfect size?

If you can wear it four hours without your balls, slipping out you have the right fit.

Alternatively, you can place your middle finger between your skin and the ring up to the first joint.

Lastly, for long-term use choosing a cage that is slightly larger than your dick might not be the best solution.

So why choose a snugger fit? When it fits snug, it lines up well with the urethra making it comfortable to pee.

At least you will not end up peeing on your foot. 

Think about hygiene!

Long-Term Health Care

With permanent chastity, hygiene plays an important role.

You need to keep it clean when wearing it for extended periods to prevent odor from forming as it leads to a big turnoff.

While stainless steel cages have ample holes with breathable areas, the device remains locked.

Get yourself a showerhead you can set to high to flush-unwanted fluids out of the cage.

Furthermore, get some Q-tips to clean your cock.

Lastly, make sure to dry the cage after getting it wet to prevent unpleasant smells and more.  

Preparing your man for long-term chastity

Locked Permanently

While allowing your sub having one orgasm a year keeps him eager to serve you and something to look forward to—you need to get him used to it at first.

Therefore, you can get a short-term chastity device to begin the training for the first few months. Start with a full month before you give your sub a break.

Leave him at least for a week to ease the body and allow him to orgasm to prepare the mind mentally. You may even find he wants to cage longer as the orgasms more tremendous caged.

After the week, get him back into the device for one more month. Now is the time to challenge his obedience and devotion.

Chastity Teasing

So keep his libido high with some teasing and temptation.

Do this by asking for oral sex at least once a week; however, let him rest for a week after completing a month. Now you can start shopping for a permanent chastity device that is safe to wear.

On the other hand, now you need to give him his last sexual pleasure and lock in up for good. He will become the slave you desire and want.

However, permanent male chastity is not for everyone and can remain a far-fetched fantasy.

What are the effects of Permanent Chastity?

Myths of Enforced Chastity

While there are many myths around permanent chastity wearing a cock cage for the long term is healthy and safe.

So what are the myths around wearing a chastity device long-term?

Will it cause erectile dysfunction?

The myth is untrue, and it does not cause difficulty peeing, erectile dysfunction, or any other problems related to the function of the penis.

Urologists have consulted these matters and found no side effects associated with it.

Chastity causes nocturnal pain

Another fable that is not true. Many people say that wearing a cock can cause severe pain when you get an erection throughout the night.

The truth is that if you have a properly fitted chastity device, it should not cause any problems.

The only time it may cause discomfort is if you sleep on your stomach. Some subs have mentioned minor chafing due to this.

On the other hand, many men prefer staying un-caged overnight a couple of times per month as the nocturnal erection helps promote blood flow to your penis.

Therefore, discuss it with your keyholder for overnight uncaging.

Causes shrinkage

When you do permanent chastity, it makes your balls and penis small. Here we have another myth that is true for some users, while others found no change at all.

The fact is if you have extended periods of male chastity for a couple of months and more not having an erection or orgasm could cause shrinking of the erectile tissue on your dick.

However, if concerned, this might happen to you, talk to your mistress, or master to schedule frequent orgasms or overnight un-caging instead.

Male Chastity is Safe but say no to Spikes

Male Chastity Device with Nails

Taking part in permanent chastity has some mere myths associated with it due to misinformation.

However, there is one truly dangerous cock cage the spiked chastity device!

You can find a male chastity device that has spikes known as anti-pullout pins on the inside tube.

Why is it there? It prevents the man from pulling his cock out of the invention.

If you try to break out, the spikes dig into your dick, and it’s painful. The same thing happens when you touch yourself or get an erection.


Spiked Chastity Device Pain

These anti-pullout pins cause long-term harm and are dangerous. The fact is whether you do enforce chastity for years or short-term celibacy involuntary nighttime erections continue to happen.

There is a reason why a man wakes up with morning glory, as it is the body’s way to ensure that blood circulates properly.

Furthermore, it is normal and healthy.

Not only will these pins cut into the penis during the night it causes abrasions as well.

So if you are planning long-term chastity, use a male cock cage that is safe.

Sexual Pleasure after Chastity

Key holder’s think of it this way, what use is your subs penis for you when you do release him from captivity if his dick is bruised and not able to function.

So choose a comfortable fitting man’s chastity device to achieve great results.

Femdom Chastity Explained

Femdom Chastity

Are you in a Femdom relationship? Are you ready to go all the way and add chastity to your list? However, what is femdom chastity, and what does it entail?

The truth is whether you want your bad behavior to be corrected or your orgasms controlled by your woman, the methods and outcomes remain the same.  

Whether you bring chastity into the relationship using devices manufactured for punishment to keep you chaste the fact remains your orgasms always at the pleasure of your Domme.

A fact is that it takes control and trust to enjoy and carry it out properly. Here you can find all the different ways how chastity can add splendor to your relationship.

Femdom Chastity Controlling Your Mans Dick

Medieval Femdom Chastity

One cannot talk about femdom chastity without talking about all the different devices available to keep that cock safely locked away.

As you know the penis cannot get any naughty pleasure as it’s ordered to stay away from sexual relief. Luckily we do not live in the olden days when it came to sexual repression!

Chastity Torture Device

A fact is that most chastity devices had painful spikes to press the enlarged penis, forcing it to deflate and caused mind-shattering pain. Why as it was a big no-no as erection do not go hand-in-hand with sexual denial.

While you can still find these spiked chastity devices, it comes recommended for experience couples to use. However, it is a dangerous game and not recommended.

These devices can cause severe pain, cuts, and infections. So if you do want to bring pain and discomfort into your femdom chastity relationship, you need to do it with utmost care.

Male Chastity Belt

The most common method for new disciplined users is the chastity cage and belt to give you a complete lack of orgasm. These devices wrap around your penis to keep it where it should be out of the hands’ way.  

You can find a wide selection of variations available from ball stretchers to chastity devices with butt plugs. Furthermore, you can even mind models custom made to fit your lifestyle and needs.

Chastity Lock and Key

All of the devices come with a lock and key, and the only way to remove it is with your Domme approval.

Egotism and Chastisement is Your Choice

Male Domination

Depending on what type of couple you are, you do not always have to use chastity. Sometimes even a threat of punishment is more than enough to keep your obedient male from touching himself.

However, to obtain total obedience, you still need to hand out a few punishments to attain the goal. Furthermore, it also depends on how much you and your submissive spend time apart.

Therefore you may need to employ different methods to ensure he has not enjoyed any orgasm while you are apart. What is more, you need to remember that the penis will be emitting ejaculation long after reaching an orgasm.

As a result, it is impossible to keep the underwear from not getting stained after the submissive has masturbated. No matter how much your man tries to remove everything, there will always be some evidence left behind.

Once that erection starts going down the fluid oozes out and stays behind. So the only way your sub will be able to prove his innocence is by presenting you with clean underwear.

If you find any wet spot, the chance is he took it upon himself to enjoy an orgasm without your presence, and this is where the punishment begins.

The chastisement needs to be intense enough for your submissive not to try their luck again.

Sexual Frustration with Male Chastity

Medieval Spanking

A big part of chastity is sexual frustration and very beneficial to use by the Domme as part of punishment or reward. A fact is that men feel they must orgasm.

Furthermore, the longer they go without it, the more they crave it until it becomes part of an obsession. Now, this is where the Femdom can find most of his or her power especially with devices used in the relationship.

You can use the dives against your sub’s orgasm to make sure he is obedient and doing things according to your wishes. If he is a good boy and does what you want him to do, he may find himself experiencing an orgasm once every few weeks.

Always make him wait until he reaches the fever pitch making him understand that he is not getting it because he wants its but has earned it.

How does Femdom Chastity Orgasm Work

Sexual Pleasure

Once you permit him an orgasm it all depends on where he is within the relationship. If it is actual sex with the Domme it should be a rare occurrence.

The body of the Domme is a divine temple that the sub is never allowed to touch unless permitted. Furthermore, once permission is given you do find that many Domme uses their feet bringing their subs to pleasure.

Doing this reminds the slave that he belongs on the floor as his mistress stands above. Another alternative is for the sub to masturbate in front of the Domme.

These two methods are the most dependable choice. It can cause humiliation for the slave and feeds back into the relationship. No matter how you plan to go with your Femdom chastity it is rewarding and fun.

The important thing is to keep it safe, always making it your primary concern. Always be honest and open in your relationship as trust plays an integral part in chastity.

Furthermore, femdom chastity should work for both partners.


Water Based Lube

Lock Your Cock

Male Chastity what is it and how can you get into this kink? You are in luck as we are going to discuss all the joys and torments of cock/penis cages or chastity cages.

Here you can find everything you need to know about this ancient practice! Furthermore, you can find steps on how to start with the kink if you are new to it or want to buy a device.



Male Chastity

One question that comes to most couples’ minds is what the secret is to have a healthy relationship? To answer the question it depends on the person you ask.

For many couples, the male chastity device inspires honesty and openness in the relationship. The metal or plastic cage fits over the man’s genital making it impossible to get an erection.

Furthermore, it prevents the man from engaging in sexual activities as well. The device you wear around the head and shaft of your penis.

The penis tubes held in place with a testicle ring and you can add some of them to a waist harness if preferred.

Once the cock cage is locked, you enter into enforced male chastity, and having an erection becomes uncomfortable.

A fact is that most BDSM enthusiasts use the toy for play, and the wearer becomes the submissive giving up his or her power to the dominant holding the key.

Do you want to enjoy enforced chastity?

Chastity Belts

There are many reasons why both men and women enjoy enforced chastity. Here are some of them:


Sexual Denial & Tease

With sexual denial and tease, it increases the tension exponentially as there is nothing you can do about it.

You savor the moment than racing into an orgasm as most couples do. As an example, you will start with a naughty message while both of you are at work when doing vanilla texting.

All you can do is bite your lip, wait to get home and smile while enjoying the passion worked up throughout the day. With the chastity cage, it does the same job but is stricter.






Sexual Release

Since you cannot masturbate nor have intercourse while wearing your cock cage, the pleasure comes when you are allowed to take it off.

Therefore, your orgasm is more intense, especially when your Dom makes you wear it for weeks on end.








Sex Drive

No matter for what reasons you are in a male chastity device from humiliation, feeling you need to do some naughty, or it is taboo it increases the arousal providing you with a fantastic sex drive.

Alternatively, it can be because you want to spice up your sex life to shake things up or try something new.





BDSM is all about punishment, dynamics, and rewards. Furthermore, it makes up part of your submissive training to boost good behavior and helps discourage wrong actions.


During chastity and BDSM play the relationship of the D is to have physical power or ownership over the sub.

They control his or her body and sexual pleasure. Therefore, your dick belongs to your partner and is locked up.


Enforced Chastity

No matter what level of play you partake in BDSM, both the Dom and Sub need to be SAFE, SANE, SOBER, and CONSENSUAL.

Therefore you need to make sure to use a Safe Word to prevent anything from going wrong. Furthermore, it is the Dom who needs to make sure it is pleasurable and fun and done in a safe environment.

For example, you are wearing your male chastity device for a week.

Your partner is out of town, and you have visible swelling leading to danger and need to remove the device. All you need to do is text with a safe word to your Dom to grant you freedom from the device.


Behaioural Correction Male Chastity


The goal you want to reach wearing a male chastity device is a perfect fitting and comfortable one.

  • Ring Sectionthe ring needs to fit around the penis base and scrotum snug and not slip off. You do not want to have cock and ball torture. If the rings to lose it will not remain on you, and you do not want it too tight preventing blood circulation.
  • Penis Lengthchoosing the tube length the tip of your penis presses at the end of the cage. There must not be compression, and it should not be too short. You do not want discomfort. Furthermore, if it is too long it will not prevent erection and urination becomes disastrous.
  • Penis Diameter when measuring, you need to take your (flaccid) penis into consideration to feel comfortable. It must not be too tight preventing movement as it can cause skin irritation. Furthermore, it should not be too loose, or you will get a full erection.

Therefore, you are aiming for a penis cage that is not too tight or too loose.


Cock Ring

Fitting the ring is the most challenging part of taking loads of time and effort. Do not skip this part and choose the one you think is close enough. Here is how you do it:

  • Start by using a soft measuring tape and measure around your smooth scrotum and penis. Use the initial measurement as a guide to get the number and head to the next step.
  • Now you have two choices to buy an affordable cock ring set by going online or visiting a store to buy a metal ring. Whether you buy online or visit a store, make sure they have your IM available in the set. Alternatively, you can pick a measurement in the middle. Furthermore, make sure to buy more than one ring with a size smaller than a ¼ -inch increment.
  • Now that you have your ring put it around your soft scrotum and penis.
  • To make sure you have a comfortable fit, you need to able to stick your finger between your penis and the ring. If it is tight you can do the next step. However, if you cannot fit your finger in then move up a size. If you have too much room use a size smaller.
  • Once you have the correct ring leave it there, take a walk around the house you can even wear it to work and bed. Do this for a few days so that you can adjust your fit to smaller or bigger.

Here the important thing is to be able to wear the ring without it causing discomfort. Now if you are one of those men not able to find a perfect fit even with a ¼ inch difference, then you are between ⅛ of an inch difference.


Chastity Cage Fitting

Installing the penis cage is also tricky but more manageable than finding the right fit for a ring. Here you will need a ruler and measure under your penis by resting the tip on the ruler.

Now take the measurement where your tip ends. The important thing is that you need to be flaccid and relaxed.

On the other hand, you can take measurements at different times of the day and if in doubt go shorter.

The next step is to fit the penis diameter by placing your flaccid penis on the ruler and measure how wide it is.

Now subtract ½ an inch for a snug fit, and if you want the approximate circumference you can multiply the diameter by 3.14.  Take a soft measuring tape and measure around the penis and compare the number.


The important thing you need to remember is that not all chastity devices are the same. Several designs meet the different needs of sexual play. Here are some accessories you can look at:

CB 6000

CB6000 Chastity Cage

The CB6000 is known as the white brand with basic construction. However, you can find it with other titles as well.

The device is made up of a ring with a molded shaft and head section. There is a slit at the end for urination.

You can find it in a curved tube design instead of an end section shaped like your penis head. Some have cages instead of slits at the end. While others offer you a detachable tip, you can remove.





Metal Bar

There are also different ways to fit the cock cage with a ring around your penis, a metal bar running along the penis (found in the Birdcage) or you can get a combination of both creating a web-like pattern.









Metal & Ventilated Cock

Alternatively, another distinction found in male chastity devices is how much skin is shown and how much you can feel when wearing it.

  • Open End – here the end comes off, leaving you with your head exposed and allows for stimulation.
  • Partially Closes – as seen in the CB 6000 that offers no stimulation and mostly closed.
  • Caged – here you have the metal bars providing ventilation and restricts stimulation.
  • Completely Closed – the cock cage allows for no form of stimulation and has no ventilation. Furthermore, you need to remove the cage to urinate.

On the other hand, you can also get an extra short-shaft to long-length design if you do need it.


Body Safe

When choosing a body-safe material we recommend you look at one made with medical grade stainless steel.

Another great alternative is titanium, silicone, or polycarbonate plastic. For a lightweight penis cage, you can look at plastic as you can cut the connecting pin with a wire cutter in emergencies.

For the beginner, you can look at one made with silicone as it warms up faster. To remove the device all you need is a pair of scissors.

If you do not mind the added weight, you can opt-in one made with metal. However, when it comes to the device there are some safety aspects to consider. The first is the metal that is hard to cut through in emergencies.

Furthermore, if you travel a lot, the likeliness is that you will beep at metal detectors. Choosing leather and TPE/TPR rubber or novelty cages of jelly all have risks.

The leather is hard to clean while TPE/TPR rubbers porous and the ones made from jelly are sometimes toxic.


  • What type of play are you planning to do? Are you wearing it for fun or long term? If you plan to wear it long term we recommend getting one with ample ventilation but still restricting stimulation. Choosing a partially closed model is the best option for long-term wear.
  • The curve of the tubes just as essential and should downwards make it more discreet to wear in public.
  • Another vital feature is the lock as you find ones with built-in locks, security screws, disposable locks, and padlocks.
  • Then you get two ring options, the solid and hinged one. With a hinged cage, you open it and place it behind your balls and close while the solid one is difficult and leaves you no room for error.
  • Do you want extras? Some of the models you can use with a urethra that goes up the dick, or you can use it with other sex toys attached as well.


Male Chastity Device Shop

Depending on your needs you can find sellers offering you custom made cages based on your measurements. These devices can become costly, so if you want something without spending a fortune to try you can find cheaper devices available as well.

Here are some reliable shops you can find male chastity devices:

  • House of Denial has some excellent models sold at reasonable prices
  • Lovehoney is another tremendous male chastity device shop that sells more than just cock cages
  • Sub Shop has a big selection available but costly.
  • Extreme Restraint also has a wide selection of BDSM, sex toys, and chastity cages at a high price tag
  • The Stock Room also sells beautiful collection chastity belts for men and women.

Furthermore, for more affordable chastity devices, you can look at Ali Express and Amazon as well. However, if you want the best craftsmanship you can look at the other shops mentioned above.


Water Based Lube

Now you have your chastity belt, but what is the best way to get it on? You start by using your hands and lube.

However, if you have a hinged ring, all you need to do is open it and fit it around the penis and scrotum.

If you have a solid ring and needs a gentle pinch of scrotal skin at the bottom to get it through the loop, now you push one testicle at a time through.

Bend your penis down and place the tube section. Another thing you can do is put some lube around the glands as it makes things simpler. We recommend using a water-based lube as it dries automatically afterward.

Another alternative method is the stocking one where you put the ring on as usual. Now take knee-length hosiery and cut both ends off. Place the hose through the cage with both ends sticking out.

Place your penis in the stocking and close up the cage. Now slowly pull the hose through the other end, and your penis is in place.

You can wear it for a day or two to see how comfortable the male chastity cage is and if you need another one different.


Chastity Hygiene

Make sure to give the cock cage a daily cleaning if you plan on wearing it for a few hours a day. After cleaning it with soap, make sure it is dry before placing it back in its bag.

For long-term chastity play, you still need to do daily washing while wearing it. You can use warm water and soap preferably an anti-bacterial one.

Furthermore, you can use a cotton swab to reach those hard-to-reach places. Importantly remember to clean around the crotch as well.

Always keep it thoroughly dried after washing by using a heater or fan, and you are good to go. What is more, with long-term chastity you need to set out one day to remove the cage and give it a thorough cleaning.

Now is the time to inspect your privates for scrapes, irritations, and cuts.

Other Vital Things to Remember with Male Chastity

  • Peeing is not going to be comfortable with a cage. Some men find it easier to sit down as it keeps the process cleaner. Furthermore, remember to always dry when finished.
  • Ventilations are another concern if you plan on wearing the device long-term. Therefore, it is better to buy one that is well ventilated.
  • Sleeping also provides some discomfort as you can get nighttime erections. If you do wake up with pain, it is best to remove the cage and inspect yourself. Preferably buy another model instead.
  • Lastly, to prevent hygiene problems, we suggest you keep things trimmed down there. The shorter the hair it stop pulling and pinching.


Kinky Pleasure

Each person has his or her reason what they with a chastity device. However, no matter what you use your device for whether it is for sexual pleasure, sexual release, or behavior correction, we hope you find a suitable one to wear.

Furthermore, we hope that the male chastity device guide shows you all the ins and outs related to chastity play as well.

Now take a deep relaxing breath and let it out. You are done, and we thank you for reading until the end.

If you have something, you would like to share, feel free to provide feedback in the comments.

Have a stimulating day talk soon, Alfre.


Ruined Orgasm – What is it?

Ruined orgasm, you heard of it but never thought you would want to try or enjoy the fetish.

Have you recently joined the male chastity the likeliness is you have heard of it?

However, if you have never heard of the fetish it is when people enjoy not enjoying an orgasm?

Strange but so true, they enjoy the control and dominance of the keyholder over their ultimate pleasure

Furthermore, it is a fantasy people want to experience once used as an advantage during BDSM play as punishment.

So just the fact that you can and will do something cruel like this is a significant turn on for your chastise and sometimes even you.

The fact is your servant likes the idea so much the orgasm is stronger when you ruin it for them.

Here we will go over the types of ruined orgasms and methods you can use.

How to Ruin an Orgasm More  

The Point of No Return

So what is a wholly ruined orgasm? It is one where the sub reaches no point of return and receives no further stimulation.

Furthermore, you completely withdraw the hands and leave him with only air.

The process is tricky; he can tell you when he is close to reaching the edge and you can stop right when he is near.

Therefore, you can punish as you see fit.

Otherwise, you can go a couple of strokes after announcing he is close, as it should give you enough notification on how much stimulation he can still handle.

However, make it only a stroke or two each time to get the most of the ruined orgasm.

Alternatively, you can keep your sub honest by stopping, as your lover gets close.

By doing this, you can get the best out of this orgasm control game. Now you may be wondering how do you judge a bust orgasm?

The best way is to compare how much your lover came compared to other times when doing it the usual way.

If you found loads of cum, the likeliness is he secretly enjoyed it, and you went on too long.

On the other hand, a person who has a strong fetish for ruining their orgasm enjoys it more than a pure orgasm!

Furthermore, there are many alternatives to ruining a subs orgasm, whether for dominating or fun.

Common Variants of a Ruined Orgasm

Ruining and Orgasm

Another variant that is common to ruin an orgasm is to restrict the flow of love juice. So how do you do this?

Once your toy hits the point of no return, you squeeze his dick under the head or at the base.

Do it tightly to prevent cum from coming out. On the other hand, you can put your thumb over the cock head as controlling the flow of water running out a garden hose (thumbing the orgasm.)

You can do this using your finger or tape as the less cum gives less enjoyable orgasms ruining the orgasm completely.

So why is the orgasm, less fun for him?

The semen is backing up in the tubes, causing discomfort and a busted orgasm.

However, if you find yourself concerned with this, you can let more cum escape.

Another method to ruining an orgasm is physical pain. By being strict, it takes some of the satisfaction away; however, once he approaches that point of no return, his discomfort threshold can go way up.

You may find your slave finds this hands-off approach better, especially if they like CBT or pain.

What’s more, you can do this by flicking the head of the dick or slapping the cock.

Another option is the balls by slapping them hard or even squeezing them.

Post orgasm torture is another method known as palming. All you do is lubricate the cock well and use your palm on the head.

While it can make it, more pleasurable, it can become uncomfortable for your partner that are sensitive before having an orgasm.

We recommend you do the palm before your lover hits the point to see his reaction.

Pleasure Like Never Before

Ruined Orgasm Distraction

Orgasm Distraction

While there are many ways to distract, your lover, the best approach is to have ice on hand to place on the cock and balls.

It numbs away the pleasure and gives him temperature shock.

Furthermore, you can make a sudden noise, pour lemon juice in their mouth, or shine a bright light in the eyes.

So what does it do? All it does is scare the sub into an entirely ruined orgasm.

Therefore, distraction can be the best way to ruin an orgasm, but you will need to keep coming up with new ones.

What are the mental aspects of ruining an orgasm?

Mental Aspects of Ruining Orgasm

Here we recommend if your lover has a fetish about ruining his orgasm, it is best to inform the sub ahead of time.

Depending on his or her interest, the anticipation makes playing beforehand either more or less enjoyable.

By making it clear, he cannot do anything about what is going to happen with his ruined orgasm.

Alternatively, you can get your slave to hold back his orgasm, giving a more complete ruined orgasm.  

Furthermore, it takes the fun out of it if your sub has a strong fetish for it.

On the other hand, if you want to ruin it completely, you can ask not to come or motivate to try to hold back.

However, it can be mean as your slave is trying to behave and can lead to misbehavior. You do not want them to misbehave!

Alternatively, it can also lead to your lover feeling horny or unsatisfied.

The truth is different approaches fit various subs, and it is best to pick something exciting for both of you.

Alternatives to Provide a Ruined Orgasm

Male Chastity Orgasm Denial

One great way to ruin his orgasm is to lock him in a male chastity cock cage.

Your lovers locked up anxiously waiting for the release and have a ruined orgasm fetish the likeliness is it will intensify the feeling.  

However, it all depends on your man and could be a reward or punishment or even both.

Therefore, the best is to experiment and find out what works for both of you.

Furthermore, if ruined orgasm is not for you, try some other unique ways like a nipple or testicle stimulation or even prostate massaging.